Free Will or Fate?

Written By Auntie Shelley

One of the questions I receive from time to time is:

"How can free will and fate both exist? If my life is already planned, do my choices even matter?"

I love this question because, honestly, I don't think there's a simple answer. I can only share what I've come to believe through my own experiences, my work with Spirit, and the conversations I've had over the years.

From my perspective, fate and free will aren't opposites. I believe they work together.

Imagine you're planning a cross-country road trip.

You know your destination before you leave home, but there are dozens of different roads you could take to get there. You can stop at interesting places, take detours, get completely lost for a while, or even decide to pull over and rest for a bit. Those choices are yours.

The destination may stay the same.

The journey is where free will lives.

One of the beliefs that has shaped my own spiritual understanding is the idea that our souls choose certain experiences before we incarnate. Some people call these soul contracts. Others don't believe in them at all, and that's okay. I simply know this concept has helped me make sense of some of the relationships and experiences in my own life.

Have you ever met someone and felt an instant connection—or an equally instant resistance? Sometimes those relationships seem to arrive carrying lessons far bigger than either person realizes. Whether you see that as a soul contract, psychology, coincidence, or something else entirely is up to you. I simply believe some of the people who enter our lives become powerful catalysts for our growth.

That doesn't mean we're trapped.

Quite the opposite.

Every day we're making choices.

We choose how we respond to disappointment.

We choose whether to hold onto resentment or begin working toward forgiveness.

We choose whether fear gets the final say or whether we're willing to take one small step forward anyway.

Those choices matter.

In fact, I think they matter more than we realize.

For years, I resisted my own spiritual path. I had every reason in the world to ignore it. I was scared. I worried what people would think. I questioned myself constantly. If someone had asked me back then whether I wanted to become a medium, I probably would have laughed and changed the subject.

Yet life had a funny way of gently nudging me back toward it.

Eventually those nudges became impossible for me to ignore.

Could I have continued saying no?

Maybe.

I'll never know.

What I do know is that every decision I made—whether it moved me closer to my path or farther away from it—taught me something I needed to learn. Looking back now, I can see how those experiences prepared me for the work I do today.

Maybe that's where fate and free will meet.

Not in choosing whether life happens, but in deciding how we'll respond to what life places in front of us.

That's one of the reasons I teach intuition and spiritual development the way I do. My goal isn't to convince you what to believe about soul contracts, fate, or reincarnation. My goal is to help you become more aware of your own life, trust your own experiences, and make choices that feel aligned with the person you're becoming.

Because whether you believe your path was planned long before you arrived—or that you're creating it one decision at a time—we can probably agree on one thing.

The next choice is still yours to make.

May you always have food on your table, light in your life, and love in your heart.

Your Magical Medium,

Shelley Leggett – Spiritual Badass

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If I Can Learn This, So Can You.

For nearly thirty years, I lived in a world where logic ruled everything. My career in software and publishing trained my brain to solve problems, look for patterns, and make sure two plus two always equaled four.

Then Spirit showed up... and nothing fit into that equation anymore.

I wasn't born talking to dead people, and I certainly wasn't the kid who always knew I was psychic. If you'd told my younger self I'd one day become a professional medium, spiritual teacher, and ordained minister, I would have laughed in your face.

Instead, I questioned everything.

I second-guessed every experience. I wanted proof. I wanted logic. I wanted someone to explain why I was sensing things I couldn't explain.

Sound familiar?

That's exactly why I teach the way I do today.

I don't believe intuition belongs to a chosen few, and I certainly don't believe Spirit wants you dependent on someone else to tell you what your own soul already knows.

My job isn't to impress you with what I can do. It's to help you recognize what you can do. Whether we're working together in a class, a mentoring session, or a reading, I want you to leave with more confidence in yourself than you had when you arrived.

In fact, I tell my students all the time that I want to work myself out of a job. That probably sounds like terrible business advice, but it's true. I don't want you to feel like you need me every time you have a question, want to connect with Spirit, or find yourself second-guessing your intuition. I want to help you build enough confidence in yourself that one day, you won't need me anymore.

Well... unless you just want to hang out and be my friend.

Real spiritual teaching isn't about creating dependence. It's about giving people the confidence to trust themselves long after the class is over, the reading has ended, or the mentoring session is complete.

And if someone as analytical, skeptical, and left-brained as me could learn to do that, I truly believe you can too.

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